Last time I talked about several things that we decided to skip at our wedding that we didn’t miss at all. Today, I want to talk about the few things that we actually did miss.
I know that everyone always says, “Your wedding day won’t be perfect. Something will go wrong.” But honestly, we really didn’t have any of those moments. The weather was perfect. Everything was on schedule. We had enough food and enough alcohol. There was no drama. There were no excessively drunk people. Honestly… I have nothing to complain about.
So I’m going to invent things to complain about. No, that’s not it. Truthfully, because our day went so smoothly, I feel bad saying anything bad about it. But there are a few decisions we made that, if I could go back in time, I would change.
What would we not skip if we could do it all over again?
- The Father-Daughter Dance: We decided not to have a father-daughter dance or a mother-son dance. Mr. Whale didn’t want to call attention to it. His reasoning was that he would just dance with his mom later on in the night and that I could do the same. And he did dance with his mom. But… I never got to dance with my dad. (Too much stuff was happening, and I just forgot!) This is the only thing from our wedding that I reeeeeally regret. I know see that there’s a reason it’s a designated dance. It’s because without a special time for it, it might not happen at all!
- A Receiving Line: There’s a reason receiving lines are a thing. (Just like there’s a reason a designated father-daughter dance exists.) It’s because you might not get a chance to talk to every guest otherwise. I wish I had read Mrs. Sword’s post before our wedding. I think we could have done a quick one.
- Fresh Flower Bouquets: But Blue Whale, in your last post you said you didn’t regret your choice! I know, I’m so fickle. Truthfully, I don’t think I would go back and have fresh flowers again. But I brought it up, because I felt some initial regret about not having fresh flowers. Now that enough time has passed, I am totally in love with my paper flowers again. But I will say one thing about this. You had better love your bouquet. Because it will be in almost every single photo that you’re in. So if you don’t like it, you’ll question its presence in every photo.
(I can’t lie. Sometimes I wish this bouquet was in my life.)
- Wedding Programs: Okay, realistically, I didn’t miss the wedding programs. But, a funny little thing happened on our way to our wedding. Mr. Whale turned to me in the car and said, “Where are those wedding programs you made?” And I said, “Oh, it turned out to be too much work. So I just quit. We don’t have programs.” And he said, “What?? But how will people know who the wedding party is? What if they wanted to take a program home from the wedding??” This, folks, is why you should occasionally fill your fiance in on your plans. If I’d known he cared so much about the programs, I certainly would have kept at it. But I just assumed that he wouldn’t care. Whoops.
Did you end up missing any of the stuff you skipped?